Sonntag, 17. Januar 2016

When I look at You...

When I look at You,
I see so much more than your outer appearance,
I see so much more than the roles you play in your daily life.

I look in your eyes and I see your eternal Self, your Divine Self.
I look in your eyes and I see the eternal One that you are - the One you forgot you are.

I feel your light but also your pains,
I feel your hopes but also your doubts.
I feel your courage but also your fears.

And I would like to tell you: dear One,
don't you remember who you truly are?
don't you remember where you came from?
don't you remember your true Divine Source?

And I would like to take your hand, hold your hand,
and help you to remember who you are.

You forgot that you carry a Light within you that can heal all your pains.
You forgot that you carry a Light with you that can change all your energies.
You forgot that you are this Light - it is the Divine Soul that you are,
it is your eternal Self - the Light of God.

And so I look at you, I hold your hand and I say to you:
You can right now chose to step into this awareness of your Divine Soul,
You can right now, here, today, shift your consciousness and BE the One you truly are.

I see your tears... I feel your sadness... the world out there has confused you,
and told you who you are NOT. And as many of us you have lived lifes
and years in different roles that made you feel lost and hurt.

But today you can begin to remember your true Divine Self.
We are here to help you to remember your Light, your Power,
the Love that YOU ARE.

And as many saints and monks all around the world did remember before you,
You too can now start to remember your true Divine Source.
That place where we all came from... long time ago....

Because we are ALL from the same Divine Source of Light.
I look in your eyes and I see who you truly are, an eternal light.
I look in your eyes and I know that you begin to remember.
Yes, there is more than what the world told you, and you are more.....
allow yourself to remember... more and more....
GOD is.

Yes, you are an old Soul. You carry a big beautiful Light.
The essence of your Soul is Love.
You got wisdom from hundreds of incarnations on this planet.
Your Soul is eternal, and the more you connect with it, the more you will remember...

When you surrender all your emotions and thoughts to your Divine Self,
When you surrender and ask the God within you for guidance,
you will discover what others have discovered on this path before you.

Go in stillness.... and listen within.... within your heart.
Because the Truth is there, always, within your heart...

Thank You.

Blessings, Love and Light to you,

Samstag, 16. Januar 2016

Discover real Peace in the Stillness within You

We all know those words saying:"The answers are within you." True, and there is a lot more to find within your heart than answers...

You know the energy field around those meditation teachers, those "old wise beings" where you can feel their peace, their wisdom and their unconditional love. All this, you have it too, always available to you within yourself. Here the good news: everything that you admire in them, YOU have it too, within you.

The less good news: it may take some time, a real commitment, devotion and practice, before getting there. But one thing is sure: every single person who is sitting in stillness in daily meditation and asking for Divine Guidance to get there, does always receive help. From where? From your own DIVINE SELF and from the Divine Realms.

Yes, your own Divine Self is waiting and looking forward for you to ask to connect again in a stronger way. Because this is the beginning of your awakening, the beginning of your healing and your freedom: sitting in stillness, in meditation and say the words as examples: "I ask for Divine Guidance."

To begin, you lay aside all the outer noise from the thoughts, emotions and feelings. Then it that wonderful stillness, is where you begin to clean yourself from human consciousness and you then merge with Divine Consciousness. When you become more and more quiet, you then listen - this is where you find everything you were looking for.

Because that unconditional Love is never to find outside in the human world, but always inside your heart in your own eternal Divinity. That is the part of you that is your Soul, your Higher Self, your Divine Self - the one many of us forgot while living as humans in the survival mode, in the noise of the ego-thoughts and in the distractions of the outer world.

In the stillness and oneness with your own Divine Self, your real healing will happen, cleansing will be done and you re-discover the peace and love you knew exist. By going within your heart, you will find it all. There, you get in touch with your own Source of Being, from where you will receive new strength, wisdom and guidance for your daily life. The key is to practice every day, in order to obtain the best results.

During meditation, when you consciously connect with your Divine Source, you feel that you are gently filled with a loving energy and a feeling of bliss. This is where you can also ask for answers to your personal questions. When you have asked, then continue to sit in stillness for awhile and listen carefully with all your being. Trust that an answer will be given to you in an appropriate way and time. Stay open to receive it.

In case you feel insecure if you are doing it right, ask the Divine Angels to join you and help you. Know that you are never alone in this. You have your Guardian Angel who is more than happy to help you, if you ask for help. You will discover that there is a sacred room within your heart, where you can always find peace and healing. There, you discover more and more your own Divinity - and this is your goal.

It is important for your inner balance to take this daily time for your meditation. People who meditate every day experience a better life quality, inner harmony and more inner peace. It will help you on many levels of your being and offers you new inspiration. While connecting with your inner Divine Source, your health will get better and you will feel more Love.

During meditation, you open the doors of your consciousness to the Divine Realm and you receive more Divine Guidance that will manifest in your daily life and your well-being.

I hope this helps a little bit :-)

Divine Blessings to You.


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The Power of Your Soul - remember...

Since I was young, I had a certain sensitivity .... I soon started reading the spiritual books in order to get a better understanding of human nature, the Divine Realms, the Soul and its origins.

Spiritual teachers explain that one of the main reasons for the emotional suffering within mankind is in the idea of what some call "separation" -  that many have lost their contact with their own Divine Soul. This is no judgement, as it happens to many... I found soon that in this sacred reconnection with the Soul is where the necessary healing can be experienced step by step.

Real healing from emotional suffering is possible for most people, as soon as one finds a way to connect again with his own Divine Self, the Soul. Meditation is a safe path for this. One then discovers that the essence of this Soul is Love, Light and Consciousness from Divine Source.

The more we are in alignment with our own Soul, the more we can experience and feel this Love - this is the fulfilling love that many are looking for: it comes from this inner oneness with the Soul, that many experience especially during times of meditation.

In the oneness with the Soul is where real inner peace comes from. This is where the unhealed wounds gently find healing, where one can rest and relax, and where people discover their full potentials.

If people are not aware of their own inner conflicts and unfulfilled needs, they unconsciously project them on others; this is where relationship issues, discords and drama begin.

When one is able to bring the human self into harmony with the Divine Self, the Soul, inner harmony will reign and freedom begins - and is then also experienced on the outside, with others.

Know that you are not alone with this work: you can ask for help with this. Most of us had to do this inner cleaning first. This is necessary, before being able to integrate more of the light from the Divine Self. This is part of the spiritual path, the path of awakening. This is when we make the shift from "a human being who thinks he has a soul" into the consciousness that we are that Soul who is living as a human being. This is the path that is explained in the spiritual teachings.

Each one needs to get in touch again with his own heart, the Soul, the Divine Self. This is where real peace and healing comes from. As the awareness of the Soul grows stronger, inner peace and love are being established step by step. This takes time, compassion and patience. As this is being done consciously, the person experiences more and more healing and discovers a new consciousness, a new state of being.

That constant feeling that something is missing, that weird restlessness, that chronic longing for something more -- it all ends as soon as one finds the connection with the inner being, the eternal Soul again. This is why some explained that the answer has to be found within the heart: this is where your Soul is, this is where YOU are.

A new state of being and a new quality of life is then being established. One then develops more self-awareness and self-responsibility. And with this, the relationships with others also become more kind, more peaceful and loving.

As long as these steps are not being done, one continues living in separation and feels over and over again that "something is missing". Real fulfillment and love can only be found within the sacred relationship with the Divine Self, the Soul. This is our way home and our way to peace, fulfillment and freedom.
The more we connect with our own Soul, the more we feel whole again, the more we become who we really are - because we are so much more than the human being. This is what is explained in so many of the great spiritual teachings, and this is why they all teach meditation as one of the most important keys.Your inner Being, your Soul, loves you unconditionally. And during meditation you can experience, receive and feel this love.

During our time of meditation, we connect more and more with our Divine Self and from there with our Divine Source: we then receive healing, love, light and a new consciousness. We are changing in a way that is simply beautiful and pure, beyond what words can describe. We discover a new way of living, of feeling, of sharing and connecting with others. We are then truly being healed on all levels of our being. This path takes time and demands our active collaboration and participation, every day.

When we turn inward and ask our own Divine Self to help us heal - a real beautiful transformation is taking place. We can develop the habit to always turn inwards first and ask our own Divine Soul for help, in any situation. This is where all the Love, all the support we ever need does come from. Our Soul then will bring to us from the outside world whatever it is we need; - if we can lay aside our judgements, step aside and allow it to work through us.

It is a very sacred path.... It is the freedom from suffering, loneliness, depression, drama, codependency and many other struggles. The more one moves forward on this path, the more one will become independent and self-empowered. One is then living from the heart, filled with compassion and love. The more a person is again in touch with his own Divine Self, Soul, the more he/she then can let flow the love and light to others.

Because one who is aware of the Divine Self within himself, is also aware of the Divine Selves within others (no matter the outer appearances). This makes then a new level of contacts possible. Within this new consciousness and awareness, mutual respect, kindness, compassion and cooperation with everybody is just natural. And with this inner peace, one will create more peace with other people, and from there with other nations all around the world.

The more people awaken to their own Divine Self, .....

                               ..... the more peace is possible for all of us on this planet.

Divine Blessings to You,

A way out of depression and frustration

Depression and anger issues.... ?

In my understanding, depression is the opposite of expression. One example: The generation of people who were born around 1970's, in some countries they grew up in a society where they were not allowed to be independent, self-employed, going to university, having a nice fulfilling career. People in that society were not allowed to be smarter, to show and express their intelligence openly. This was only the privilege of a few rich people. Therefore it was no surprise that these people ended up angry and had depressions sometimes. This is what happens when during many long years, a person is not allowed to express his own truth: feelings of depression (and anger).

Do you feel as if you have repressed emotions? Nobody to talk about it? It can help if you find a healthy harmonious way of expression: music maybe, or painting, or writing, or dancing, or sport activities. Whatever helps you to speak/express your own truth and your real inner feelings will be healing for you. Especially, if you grew up around people who felt insecure and therefore could not allow you to be better, smarter or more successfull than they were. Sure then, that they needed to make you look smaller and to be smaller, so that they would feel better.

As a child or in your younger years, did you experience situations where you had to make yourself smaller, did you have to repress your own feelings in order to avoid rejection, or to be accepted and loved? If yes, it can be the path to your healing if you take a closer look at these patterns. Those unhealed wounds could really be the constant blockages that you experience in certain situations of your daily life.

We sometimes see that children feel scared to be more successfull than their parents - they continue to make themselves smaller even when they're 30 y. or older. This happens sometimes when a father or a mother has serious issues with self-esteem (maybe also narcissistic) or other emotional issues; and then on an unconscious level the child is not allowed to experience more happiness in private life and in the professionnal life than the parents did have.

The way in which depression and anger manifest in daily life can be subtle, unconscious. But if a person feels chronically frustrated, unfulfilled, unhappy and restless --- it may help to sit down and take a look inside the heart, and give a big loving hug to that inner child.
Often, the sadness you feel is not all yours, but it is more the sadness of the inner child who is asking for your attention. It is never too late to heal yourself.

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, with your inner Being, your Soul. Your Soul loves You -- it is no random you read this blog. If there are topics, patterns, pains that you experience over and over again in your life, those repetitions may be a very clear sign that you have an unhealed wound ((repressed emotion)) from your past that is asking for healing.
Know that you do have the power to heal it all step by step. This is what many of us have gone through. Please know that you've already made half of the way if you're conscious of the patterns. You're on your path to inner healing and freedom.

One of the key questions to ask is: in the first 18 years of your life, who did you have to be, in order to be loved by your family? Did you have to be different, smaller, quieter, perfect, invisible or maybe super nice? Did you constantly have to behave in a certain way in order to please your parents? Was there an underlying feeling that no matter how hard you tried, you were never good enough?
This may sound simple - but is important for your healing. Because even if we often don't want to admit it: the patterns we learned first about "being loved" and "feeling worthy, feeling lovable", those are the patterns that we need to look at, if we really wish to find our emotional freedom.

How good do you really feel about allowing yourself to be who you really are?

An example: sometimes a child was not allowed to speak about his feelings, or the parents had no time for the child, or a child got often humiliated by an older brother, or it got too often criticized by the parents, or never received a hug, or a child got beaten up when he asked questions about the divorce of the parents...... whatever the emotional instabilities of the environment were, over the years that child learned to repress his own feelings in order to be loved and to survive .... and all those experiences can then create a certain self-image that for sure does need healing once that child becomes a young adult.

For your healing, it is important to realize that those confusing messages you received as a child were not and simply are not true. But instead the truth is that you are good, you are worthy, you are lovable and you deserve to have a happy life. It is important that you do feel like this about yourself - and that you develop a positive self-image.

Allowing yourself to feel those repressed emotions can be a little challenging first; but by bringing them to surface, you're releasing the emotional blockages that were hindering you from living a fulfilling life. (You can also ask your guardian Angels for help with this.)

Whatever your experience was, I want you to know: You can heal those patterns, you can heal that self-image, healing is possible. Yes, it will need some work. But a few weeks work are worth it, if you then feel happy and good about yourself for the next 50-70 years of your life, right ?

For the more you heal those old emotional wounds, the more you raise your own vibration - and then you will attract happier and more fulfilling experiences. That's why I would like to encourage you herewith to take the time for yourself and do this inner work consciously. For nothing is more important than you being able to share real love with others.

And nothing is more important than you allowing yourself to be who you really are: a beautiful Soul whose essence is love, light and consciousness. Once you bring your human self in alignment with your Divine Self, in that oneness you'll not only feel love, but you'll be Love.

Feel free to write me if you wish to talk about these topics via skype.

Divine Love to You,

Jeanne J.

Freitag, 15. Januar 2016

Love as the new state of being – Part 2

This is part 2 of the previous message.

Our natural state of being is Divine Love, Divine Light and Divine Consciousness. And now as we enter more and more in this new state of being, our natural way to create our world, our life and all our experiences is „allowing“, and not struggling, forcing, manipulating, doubting or worse.

This is new to many people now. And I observe that not yet all people have realized the importance of what I call "planning time". Because the fine difference in this new state of being we are about to enter, is that we now create things in a different way. See, if any of your daily life experiences appear a little bit chaotic, frustrating or even as the opposite of what you wanted in your heart - then this planning time can help you making the necessary corrections. As long as what you plan to create always serves the highest and greatest good of all, it is in alignment within the Divine Flow.

In the Oneness with Your Divine Self, from that new state of being called Love, you now choose more consciously the life you wish to create and live. More than ever before, your thoughts and feelings now have a creative power. It is now as if you are writing a script for a movie. As a Divine Creator, you are responsible for what happens in your world. If now you do not make clear choices and set a clear intent – then, others in your environment will play out their ideas in your life, same as in the past. And you no longer want that, right?

Now, YOU truly are the director of your world, your experiences, and you can command the energies. This demands some planning time, a clear focus, clear choices, especially in the beginning. It may help to take a piece of paper and ask your Soul, your heart, what it is that you want to create. What is it you wish to see and experience in your private life, your professional life, or anything you wish to have and do.

Or, the other interesting question you may like to ask yourself: What is it that I no longer want to have in my world? Sometimes, we first have to clean out the old patterns, the old burdens, the old routine, the old emotions and the old habits, to make free space for the new experiences we wish to manifest.

If you wish to experience harmony, then choose it and bring that potential into your world. If you wish to experience any other thing, such as a new business, a new love relationship, more joy, more time, more peace, or the creation of music, art, a new house maybe... whatever you wish to change in your world, you now can decide it, choose it, imagine it, visualize it and then simply trust and allow your Higher Divine Soul to bring those potentials into your world and your daily life.

Writing those new choices, new intentions, new goals and new creations on a piece of paper can help you to keep a clear focus, maintain a better clarity and to manifest things with more ease.

Now, in the new energy and with the new consciousness, if we do not make clear choices and set clear intentions of what it is we do wish to experience, things can appear a little chaotic. We now have to keep a clear focus on all levels of our being on what it is that we wish to create: What you focus on, is what you create.

If this is still a little new to you, you can also start with small things of your daily life and practice this. Take any situation of your daily life that you wish to change. Create your new vision on how you would like it to be on a piece of paper.
Then, sit in stillness and in oneness with your Divine Self and Divine Source. From this higher state of consciousness, now bring this situation into your heart and fill it with your love ... and then see what is being presented to you.... and expect beautiful changes to manifest in your daily life.

From that higher state of consciousness and Divine Love, you now can create beautiful experiences for yourself and others. Isn't this worse some planning time?

Divine Blessings to You :-)


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Love as the new state of being

When we are on this beautiful path of awakening, we all come to the point where we discover more and more of our essence: Divine Love, Light and Consciousness.
And as long as we are able to stay centered within our heart, we experience this essence of our Divine Self (Soul) and feel that wonderful inner peace and harmony. And we just would like to keep it like this...

But sometimes, there are those old emotions, the waves of old fears sometimes, the noise of our ego disturbing that inner peace we just found. All those emotions, that is the baggage that we cannot take with us into the next dimension, into that new state of consciousness. This is why we have some „house-cleaning“ to do, before we can move forward on our path.

The beauty is that our Soul, our Divine Self, is then bringing to us situations and people who mirror back to us the pieces of that old baggage. They trigger those old emotions and fears - So that we can see, that there is something we have to take care of and clean out. We then may be facing situations that will push us outside of our old comfort zones and bring up our hidden fears about money maybe, or loneliness, or failure or whatever we have been repressing while living in survival mode.

Sure, as long as we continue to keep some old safety-nets, we do not have to deal with those fears. But the more we move forward on our path of awakening, the more we have to be honest with ourselves. If you wanna face those fears and learn what real trust is, then dare to ask yourself what are your deepest heart wishes – and why are you not doing and not living what your heart is longing for? What is holding you back?
What excuses are you telling yourself and others?

On the path of awakening, we can't continue to live half-hearted, with compromises and excuses. We are supposed to be a creator, living our passions, living and expressing Divine Love. And we can't do that, as long as we continue to nourish some old emotions who hinder us from living our own truth. Our heart is longing for joy, for love, for freedom, for expression and more... but as long as we stay in the old survival mode instead of making clear choices, we are blocked - and that gets frustrating...

In order to remove those blockages, we have to take the time to look at those different pieces of the old baggage we still carry with us. Those old emotions, the old fears, the old limiting beliefs, they all need to be released and transformed. And for this, they all need our unconditional love.

In the past, when those old emotions came to surface, we often got overwhelmed and fell into the identification with them. Then, we would not be able to transform them fully. Now, we can take care of them and transform them, without being overwhelmed again. Whenever we observe that there are some kind of old themes coming to surface, we can chose to stay in the position of the observer. As an example, you can compare this with the picture of a kindergarten teacher who decides to stay calm and centered in the middle of a group of children.

Call your Angels to help you with this work. In the position of the observer, you are One with your Divine Self, you actually are your Divine Self. You go into the sacred space of your heart where those different old emotions, the wounded aspects (from this or from older lifetimes) are waiting for your help. There, in the room of your heart, you then offer your unconditional love to those wounded aspects, who have been calling to you through those old emotions you felt.

They may even explain you why they feel the way they feel. They may help you understanding the journey of your Soul. In the presence of your unconditional love and compassion, they will now find healing and can then go into the Light. This is how you can transform those old emotions and the baggage you carry with you becomes smaller and smaller.

After having released and transformed those old emotions, you then can move forward a few new steps on your path of awakening. The merging of your human self and Your Divine Self can then continue and become deeper and stronger. You then feel more of your essence, the Divine Light and the Divine Love you truly are.

While doing that inner healing work, you shift a lot of energies on all levels of your being. Be aware that this needs time, also you need time to rest and relax. And also for the physical body, some days this can feel as if you were going through a triathlon. Do long walks in nature in order to ground the energies and give yourself time to rest.

You are about to return to your natural state of being: Divine Love, Divine Light and Divine Consciousness.

I hope this helps a little bit :-)

Divine Blessings to You.


If you wish help with this inner healing work, my website is

Loving yourself unconditionally

On this spiritual path of healing and awakening, we hear often that it's important that we learn to love ourselves.
If you grew up, like many, in an old traditional environment, you were probably also taught that "others come first" and that thinking about your own needs is selfish. Therefore you maybe end up feeling guilty everytime you would like to express your own needs. Now when you hear that you should love yourself -- you then meet an inner conflict, because you don't want to be selfish. Many experience that inner conflict: guilt on one side, the personal needs on the other side.

Feelings of guilt will always block the feelings of love. So we have to free ourselves from that old idea of guilt. To make this possible, we have to move beyond the idea of being unloyal to those who taught us that selflove is selfishness. They did their best and they didn't know any better. We can respect them, honor them, and still move forward on our personal path. In order to step fully into our own power, we have to find a harmonious and balanced way of loving ourselves.

Setting healthy boundaries between us and others is one step to a balanced self-love. We are not loving ourselves if we allow others to abuse of our kindness and our compassion.
We also don't love ourselves when we tolerate that others project their needs or frustration on us, expecting us to solve their problems. It is important that we give back to others their full responsability for their own well-being (as they are all grown up and able to take care of themselves).

Saying "no" to others when it is appropriate is another act of self-love, one that can be helpful and precious. How often do you feel exhausted and just would like to get some rest, but you said "yes" to an appointment even you weren't feeling good about it? People often say "yes" because they feel scared to loose a friend if they say "no" more often. If people give you up and don't respect your boundaries, they were not your real friends anyway.... your true friends will always naturally respect your boundaries.

Loving yourself is a learning process. Self-love gets stronger and is growing with time.
Just treat yourself with the same love and kindness that you would treat your love partner.

Another thing that is a sign of self-love is stopping all self-criticism and self-judgement. It is well known that people often criticize themselves the worst. Developing a deep sense of compassion for ourselves is very precious for this path.

Basically, when you feel that you're "efforting" again, struggling again, see it as a sign that you got out of your inner alignment. Then take a short break and simply go back into your alignment with your Soul, and remember again to connect with your heart, with who you really are.

Another very important point is: Forgiving ourselves the mistakes we made. Sometimes we made mistakes (for example in a relationship) and then we aren't aware that we are disappointed and angry with ourselves. We just feel a feeling of failure that is somewhere in the background. We struggle and think we have "messed it up". We don't like the way we acted. Then it can be difficul for us to love ourselves. Loving ourselves unconditionally even in those moments, that is real compassion.

Taking the time and consciously living self-love is about taking free time for ourselves, spending time alone. Allowing ourselves just to be in the present moment, here and now, without distractions. Depending on your daily life schedule and the work you do, this time alone is really a sacred ritual for self-healing and it is so precious for your health.

We have to let go of those different roles we play in the outer world, such as the identification with job titles or other titles. Those are only temporarly roles we play for the time of this incarnation, but that is not who we really are.

Our true Self, our Divine Self, that eternal part in us, that is who we really are; and that's why this is the most important thing to care about, to discover, to connect with. 

How can we expect to connect with others, if we are not able to connect with our own real Self?

When we reach a balanced way of self-love, we are sending out new signals, a different energy.
And from that point of balanced self-love, we can develop more love and compassion for those around us, free from projections or expectations or needs.

You'll feel more self-confident, secure and better about yourself once you set yourself free from old guilt and other old beliefs.You can now put all those limiting ideas in a box and bring that box to the recycling center. All those old limiting feelings no longer serve you. They blocked you and held you back from living your real potentials long enough!! You can choose better feeling thoughts today. This is a new day in your new life. The past is over. Make peace with it and start a new life today.

In this new life that you've chosen to live, be your own best friend, be your own motivator, believe in yourself always. Develop a positive self-image, focus on your qualities and your strengths. Surround yourself with like-minded people who will uplift you, who believe in you and who truly support you to reach your goals. This is your life - and you can make the best of it, because you do deserve it.

Loving ourselves unconditionally is creating freedom for yourself.

Your goal is to raise your own vibration: and self-love is helping you to do that.

With Love and Light,

The story of a lightworker with the name Jack

This is just a story... a parable maybe... an example...

Some people have experienced emotional suffering because they did not receive from their family members the support, the compassion, the love and understanding they needed during their childhood. And so, they then feel sad, misunderstood, maybe even a little bit frustrated. They feel that they did not get what they needed when they were young. Their parents and other family members could not give them what they deserved. Therefore, they then walk through life with the feeling that something was missing in their childhood. Many of us have experienced this too, in one way or the other. And we do remember how we felt when we were younger and did not understand why this was.

The good thing when we get older is that we start to see things from a different perspective. We start to see the deeper meaning of certain situations. We discover that there was Divine Synchronicity at work and that sometimes things happened to make sure we wake up at the right moment.

Let's take an example. Let's say that there is a Lightworker-Soul with the name of “Jack” coming to earth, incarnating somewhere in Europe. Jack is growing up with another brother and one sister. When a young child, Jack often felt misunderstood by his parents. He was a rebel, with great intelligence and he was a brilliant student at school. Jack did not see that his parents felt overwhelmed by all his questions. Jack also could not see that his parents felt he was a demanding child and how much they worried because they saw they could not fulfill all his emotional needs; because for the parents, there was not enough free time, with their jobs, with 3 children, a house and garden to take care of.

When he was a child, Jack also had no idea about the stress his father experienced at his workplace during more than 10 years, and how exhausted and tired his father was every evening when he came home after long days at work. Instead, Jack thought that his father did not really like him, because his father rarely spend time alone with him. He did not see his fathers health issues and all his fears of not being able to feed the family. His father often felt scared to lose his job, to lose the house and had many different worries about the future of the family.

The stress at work also had an influence on the relationship of the couple and that was another pressure on the heart of the father, feeling he was not a good husband for his wife. But the children could not know all this, they were too young to understand. And so, Jack only saw that he did not get from his father what he needed from him. Jack wished from his father simply what every child wishes from his father: approval, attention, love, understanding, compassion and time. Of course, every father and every mother always would like to give all this to their child. But when one is so exhausted and overwhelmed with daily life issues as his father was, of course then it is not always possible to give these things to the child.

Jack also did not see the chronical financial struggles his parents went through, and all the different fears they experienced as a young family. Plus, the mother had to take care of the grandmother and so she was not always there when the children needed their mother. Often, Jack also felt frustrated because his parents could not buy him the things he wanted to have.
He did not see that his parents: from their perspective, really they did their very best they could. He could not know the fears, the struggles, the hard work or the difficult economic environment during those times. Instead of understanding his parents, Jack from his perspective really only could see what a child when young only can see: what he needed and what he did not get.

That is how Jack started believing that his parents would not really love him, that they would not understand him and not give him what he needed as a sensitive child. Jack feels a little bit frustrated and disappointed, even neglected by his parents. He was too young to understand their situation and what they went through. When a teenager, his frustration about his unfulfilled needs sometimes even turned into anger. Anger that he would sometimes express and sometimes repress. Jack gets older, around 20 years young, he finds out that a young man can get attention and love from young ladies, and so he starts to fulfill his unfulfilled needs in many relationships with women.

Around the age of 25 then, Jack has created his own life, he got a job, his own home and a wife. He still says that his parents did not give him what they should have given him; and of course he still believes that they were not good parents. But a few years later, Jack got children himself and discovers what his parents have experienced: how demanding children can be, even if you love them and give them everything you have. How exhausting a job can be, and that sometimes at the end of a day there is no more free time to regenerate, because the family demands your presence and caring every single day.

Over the next few years, Jack discovers that maybe it is not so easy to be a good father. Now, older and after having experienced himself what his parents went through, Jack can understand them a lot better. Because of his new understanding and his new perspective, he is finally able to see that his interpretation was not fully correct and that somehow, his parents did their best with what they had. His bitterness and frustration is now being transformed into compassion and understanding for his own parents. And he makes peace with his past, and is able to accept things as they were.

Jack now also understands that sometimes one needs to let go of the expectations - because sometimes people simply cannot give what they did not receive themselves, or what maybe they do not have; even if they really would like to give it (love).

In new conversations with his parents, Jack now receives new informations about his parents life and how difficult their own childhood was and all the things they went through as young parents.... and he now understands why they could not give him everything...

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